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'↓'Controlling Your Thoughts'↓'

Pornography addiction begins in
your mind. Some people think
about it and some people don't.
For many people, pornography
doesn't interest them, just like
auto mechanics or gardening
might not interest you. But for
the pornography addict,
pornography is extremely
interesting.
You might not be someone who
spends a lot of time thinking
lustful thoughts. Lustful thoughts
can certainly increase your desire
to find pornography. But that
might not be your particular
spark.
Maybe you associate feelings of
insecurity or loneliness with sex.
Some people, when they're
feeling lonely, turn to
masturbation or pornography.
Such simulated sex makes them
feel un-lonely, at least for a little
while. If that's your situation, you
need to realize that loneliness is
part of life. Even the most happily
married man in the world feels
lonely once in a while.
Create an action plan for the
times you are alone. Learn to
enjoy being alone. Do
housework, or study, or exercise.
Get out of the house and get
your heart pumping. Don't worry
about whether you'll be tempted
again when you get back. You're
not exercising to keep from
seeking out pornography --
you're exercising because you
enjoy it, you are alone and now
is the perfect opportunity.
Find things you love to do, that
you can do when you're alone.
Controlling your thoughts is like
driving down the freeway. Have
you ever driven at a high speed
and suddenly heard your tires
thumping over the reflectors on
the lane's dividing line? You
hadn't noticed yourself swerving
out of your lane, but now you
hear the warning of the bumps
under your tires. So what do you
do? Probably, without even
thinking, you correct your
steering and pull away from the
line.
That's what you are trying to do
with your thoughts. Whenever
you get in a situation that might
tempt you to indulge in
pornography, you need to make
adjustments in your thinking and
actions to get you away from
danger. At first that will take a
great deal of effort, but as your
instincts improve, you'll find
yourself steering clear of hazards
with hardly any thought at all.
Let's say you are staying in a
hotel that offers adult
programming on television. Well,
most hotels also allow you to
disconnect adult programming.
You probably need to call the
front desk the moment you
arrive in your room and ask them
to disconnect the service. Even
though you aren't tempted when
you arrive, late at night you
might be, and you want to make
sure it is unavailable. You may
have to do the same thing 20
years from now, even though it's
been two decades since you've
sought out pornography --
remember, you're an addict; you
will always be addicted. You will
always have to take precautions.
You are an addict. You have a
disease. You have to take efforts
every day to avoid pornography.
Maybe you have to cancel your
Internet account.
There are things that you aren't
strong enough to resist. You'll
get stronger and wiser, but right
now you may have to deny
yourself some things. Listen to
your thoughts. Are you
rationalizing? Pay attention to
the things you rationalize --
they're probably the very areas
where you are weakest.
Fill your mind with something
uplifting when you catch an
unpleasant thought creeping
onto the stage of your mind.
Maybe you can sing a favorite
song to yourself, or recite an
inspiring poem, scripture or
quote.
Just remember, every day for the
rest of your life, you need to
actively resist pornography. So,
here is my plan.


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