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Julaybib R.A.

Julaybib means "small grown", his name shows dat Julaybib woz small n short, dwarf-like. He is described as bein "damim" which means ugly, deformed, or of repulsive appearance. Julaybib's lineage famly background woz nt known. Ther is no record of hu his mother or his father woz or 2 wot tribe he belonged. Julaybib cudn’t get ne compassion or help, ne protection or support 4rm da society he livd in, dat placed a gr8 deal of importance on famly n tribal connections. All dat woz known of him woz dat he woz an Arab a muslim n he woz 1 of da Ansar. Tha way Julaybib lukd n livd wud hav bin enuf 2 hav him laffed at, dissed n shunned in ne society. In fact he woz prohibited by 1 person, a certain Abu Barzah of da Aslam tribe, 4rm entering his home. He once told his wife:"Do not let Julaybib enter among you. If he does, I shall certainly do (something terrible to him)." Probably becaus he woz teased n made fun out of by tha men, Julaybib used 2 take refuge in da company of women.
Woz ther ne hope of Julaybib bein treatd wid respect n consideration? Woz ther ne hope of his finding emotional satisfaction as an individual n as a man? Woz ther ne hope of his enjoying da relationships which others take 4 grantd? Jus as he woz aware of da gr8 issues of life n destiny, da Prophet of Mercy woz also aware of da needs and sensibilities of his most humble companions. Wid Julaybib in mind, the Prophet went 2 1 of da Ansar n sed: "I want to have your daughter married." "How wonderful and blessed, O Messenger of God and what a delight to the eye (this would be)," replied da Ansari man with obvious joy and happiness. "I do not want her for myself," added da Prophet. "Then for whom, O Messenger of God?" askd da man, obviously sumwot let dwn. "For Julaybib," sed da Prophet. The Ansari must hav bin 2 shockd 2 giv his own reaction n he sed: "I will consult with her mother." n off he went 2 his wyf. "The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, wants to have your daughter married," he said 2 her. She 2 woz thrilld. "What a wonderful idea and what a delight to the eye (this would be)." she sed. "He doesn't want to marry her himself but he wants to marry her to Julaybib," he added. She woz gobsmackd.
"To Julaybib! No, never to Julaybib! No, by the living God, we shall not marry (her) to him." she protestd. As da Ansari woz bout 2 return 2 da Prophet 2 tell him wot his wyf sed, da daughter hu had heard her mother's protestations, askd: "Who has asked you to marry me?" Her mother told her of da Prophet's request for her hand in marriage 2 Julaybib. Wen she heard dat da request had come 4rm da Prophet n dat her mother woz absolutely opposed 2 da idea, she was gr8ly upset n sed:
"Do you refuse the request of the Messenger of God? Send me to him for he shall certainly not bring ruin to me." Dis woz da reply of a truly gr8 person hu had a clear understandin of wot woz required of her as a Muslim. Wot gr8er satisfaction n fulfillment can a Muslim find than in responding willingly 2 da requests n commands of da Messenger of God! No doubt, dis companion of the Prophet, whose name we do not even know had heard the verse of the Quran: "Now whenever God and His Apostle have decided a matter, it is not for a believing man or believing woman to claim freedom of choice in so far as they themselves are concerned. And he who disobeys God and His Prophet has already, most obviously, gone astray." (The Quran, Surah al-Ahzab, 33:36).
It is sed dat da Ansari girl read da verse 2 her parents n sed:
"I am satisfied and submit myself to whatever the Messenger of God deems good for me." The Prophet heard of her reaction n prayed 4 her: "O Lord, bestow good on her in abundance and make not her life one of toil and trouble."
Among da Ansar, it is sed ther woz not a mor beta bride than she. She woz married by da Prophet 2 Julaybib n they lived 2getha until he woz killed.
N how woz Julaybib killed? He went on an expedition wid da Prophet, peace be on him, n an encounter wid sum mushrikeen ensued. Wen da battle woz ova, da Prophet asked his companions: "Have you lost anyone?" They replied givin da names of their relatives of close friends hu wer killed. He put da same questions 2 otha companions n they also named da 1s they had lost in da battle. Anotha group answerd dat they had lost no close relative whereupon da Prophet sed:
"But I have lost Julaybib. Search for him in the battlefield." They searchd n found him beside 7 mushrikeen whom he had struck b4 meetin his end. Da Prophet stood up n went 2 da spot wher Julaybib, his short n deformed companion, lay. He stood ova him n sed: "He killed seven and then was killed? This (man) is of me and I am of him."
He repeated dis 2 or 3 tyms. Da Prophet then took him in his arms n it is sed dat he had no better bed besides da forearms of da messenger of God. Da Prophet then dug 4 him a grave n himself placed him in it. He did not wash him 4 martyrs r not washd b4 burial.
Julaybib n his wyf r not usually among da companions of da Prophet whose deeds r sung n whose exploits r recounted wid admiration as they shud b. But in da small facts dat r known bout em n which hav ere bin recountd we c how humble human beings wer given hope n dignity by da Prophet wher once ther woz only despair n corruption. Da attitude of da unknown n unnamed Ansari girl hu readily agreed 2 b da wyf of a physically unattractive man woz an attitude which reflected a deep understandin of Islam. It reflected on her part of personal desires n preferences even wen she cud hav countd on da support of her parents. It reflected on her part a total disregard 4 social pressures. It showd dat she woz ready n wid total confidence in da wisdom n authority of da Prophet in submitting herself 2 woteva he fort woz gud. Dis is da attitude of da true believer.
In Julaybib, der is da example of a person hu woz almost regarded as a social outcast becaus of his appearance. Given help, confidence n encouragement by da noble Prophet, he woz abl 2 perform acts of courage n mk da supreme sacrifice n deserve da commendation of da Prophet: "He is of me and I am of him."

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