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"There is no real excellence in all this world which can be seperated from right living. "

Read the following problems and identify which one describes your problem most accurately...

ONE : I've set & met my career goals & I'm having tremendous professional succes. But it's cost me my personal & family life. I don't know my wife & children any more. I'm not even sure I know myself & what's really important to me. I've had to ask myself - is it worth it?

TWO : I've started a new diet - for the 5th time this year. I know I'm overweight, & I really want to change. I read all the new information, I set goals, I get myself all psyched up with a positive mental attitude & tell myself I can do it. But I don't. After a few weeks, I fizzle. I just can't seem to keep a promise I make to myself.

THREE : I've taken course after course on effective management training. I expect a lot out of my employees & I work hard to be friendly toward them & to treat them right. But I don't feel any loyalty from them. I think if I were home sick for a day, they'd spend most of their time gabbing at the water fountain. Why can't I train them to be independant & responsible - or find employees who can be?

FOUR : My teenage son is rebellious & on drugs. No matter what I try, he won't listen to me. What can I do?

FIVE : There's so much to do & there's never enough time. I feel pressured & hassled all day, every day, seven days a week. I've attended time management seminars & I've tried half a dozen different planning systems. They've helped some, but I still don't feel I'm living the happy, productive, peaceful life I want to live.

SIX : I want to teach my children the value of work. But to get them to do anything, I have to supervise every move... And put up with complaining every step of the way. It's so much easier to do it myself. Why can't children do their work cheerfully & without being reminded?

SEVEN : I'm busy - really busy. But sometimes I wonder if what I'm doing will make any difference in the long run. I'd really like to think there was meaning in my life, that somehow things were different because I was here.

EIGHT : I see my friends or relatives achieve some degree of success or receive some recognition & I smile & congratulate them enthusiastically. But inside, I'm eating my heart out. Why do I feel this way?

NINE : I have a forceful personality. I know, in almost any interaction, I can control the outcome. Most of the time, I can even do it by influencing others to come up with the solution I want. I think through each situation & I really feel the ideas I come up with are usually the best for everyone. But I feel uneasy. I always wonder what other people really think of me & my ideas.

TEN : My marriage has gone flat. We don't fight or anything; we just don't love each other anymore. We've gone to counceling; we've tried a number of things, but we just can't seem to rekindle the feeling we used to have.

These are deep & painful problems - problems that quick fix approaches can't solve.

Perceptions govern the way we see things & how we see things govern how we behave. We must look AT the lens through which we see the world, as well as at the world we see & that the lens itself shapes how we interpret the world.

If we want to change a situation, we first have to change ourselves. To change ourselves effectively, we first have to change our perceptions.

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