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Love Styles!

Love styles are Models of lovers developed by John Lee (1973,1988).

He Identified six Basic theories, also known as "COLORS" of Love, that people use in their interpersonal relationships :

¤ Eros--
a passionate, physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment;
stereotype of romantic Love.

¤ Ludus--
A Love that is played as a game or sport; conquest.

¤ Storge--
An affectionate Love that slowly develops from friendship, based on similarity.

¤ Pragma--
Love that is driven by the Head, not the Heart; undemonstrative.

¤ Mania--
Highly volatile love; obsession; fueled by low self-esteem.

¤ Agape--
selfless altruistic Love; spritual; motherly Love.

Clyde Hendrick and susan Hendrick of Texas university have conducted extensive research on the Love styles since the mid-1980s.
They Have found that man tend to be more ludic, whereas women tend to be storgic and pragmatic.
Mania is often the first love style teenagers display.
Relationships based on similar Love styles were found to last longer.
People often look for people with the same love style as themselves for a relationship.

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¤¤¤ Eros ¤¤¤
eros is literally the love of beauty, It is Highly sensual style of love.
Erotic lovers chose their lovers by intuition or "chemistry."
They are likelier to say they fell in Love at first sight than those of other love styles.
Erotic lovers view marriage as an extended honeymoon, and sex as the ultimate aesthetic experience.
They tend to address their lovers with pet names, such as "sweetheart" or "honey."
An erotic lover can be percieved as a hopeless romantic.
Those of other love styles may see erotic lovers as unrealistic, or trapped in fantasy.
The advantage of erotic love is the sentimentality of it. It is very relaxing to the person doing it.
The disadvantage is the inevitableness of the decay in attraction, and the danger of living in a fantasy world.
In its extreme, eros can resemble naivete.
Examples of eros in movies include:
* The Blue Lagoon.
* Returns to the Blue Lagoon.
* Pretty woman.
* working Girl with a pearl Earring.

¤¤¤ Ludus ¤¤¤
ludic lovers are players, More Interested in quantity than quality of relationships, ludic lovers want to have as much fun as possible.
Ludic lovers choose their partners by playing the field, and quickly recover from break-Ups.
Ludic lovers Generally view marriage as a trap, and are the most likely of the love styles to commit infidelity.
They might view children as a sign of fertility, or, if male, a confirmation of their masculinity.
They regard sex as a conquest or a sport, and they engage in relationships because they see them as a challenge.
The advantage of ludic love is excellent sexual technique.
The disadvantage is the likehood of infidelity.
In its extreme form, ludic love becomes promiscuity.

Examples of Ludus in movies Include:
* Dangerous liaisons.
* Cruel Intentions.

¤¤¤ Storge ¤¤¤
storgic lovers are friends first.
Storgic love develops gradually out of friendship, and the friendship can endure beyond the breakup of the relationship.
Storgic lovers choose their mates based on homogamy, and sometimes cannot pinpoint the moment that friendship turned to love.
Storgic lovers want their significant others to also be their best friends.
Storgic lovers place much Importance on commitment, and find their motivation to avoid committing infidelity is to preserve the trust between the partners.
Children and marriage are seen as legitimate forms of their bond. Sex is of lesser Importance than in some of other love styles.
The advantage of storgic love is the level of intimacy between the partners. The disadvantage is boredom and lack of passion.

Examples of storge in movies include:
* When Harry met sally....
* Love and basketball.

¤¤¤ Pragma ¤¤¤
pragmatic lovers are practicle.
Pragmatic lovers think rationally and realistically about their expectations in a partner, and select them via comparison shopping or shopping-list love.
Pragmatic lovers want to find value in their partners, and ultimately want to work with their partner to reach a common Goal.
Pragmatic lovers will avoid Infidelity to avoid adverse consequences, and carefully weigh the costs and rewards of a relationship.
Pragmatic lovers viem sex as a reward or a means of procreation, and view marriage and children as potential liabilities and assets.
The advantage of pragmatic love is practically and realism. The disadvantage is undemonstrativeness and lack of emotion.
In its extreme form, pragma can becomes prostitution.
Examples of pragma in books and movies include:
* Ordinary people.
¤ Charlotte in pride and prejudice.

¤¤¤ Mania ¤¤¤
Mania lovers often have low self-esteem, and place much Importance on their relationship.
Manic lovers speak of their partners in possessives and superlatives, and feel they "need" their partners.
Love is a means of rescue, or a reinforcement of value.
Manic lovers often discover their partners by haphazard means.
Manic lovers will avoid committing infidelity if they fear discovery.
They view marriage as ownership, and children as their competition or a substitute for their lover.
Sex is a reassurance of love.
Manic lovers are often anxious or insecure, and can be extremely jealous, Manic lovers respond well to therapy, and often grow out of this style.
The advantage of manic love is Intensity. The disadvantage is jealousy, obsessiveness, and insatiability.
In its extreme, Mania becomes addiction or codependency.
Extreme examples of Mania in movies include:
* Misery
* Fatal attraction
* play Misty For me.
* swimfan
* Taxi driver.

¤¤¤ Agape ¤¤¤
Agapic love is self-sacrificing, all-encompassing love.
Agapic lovers are often spiritual or religious people.
Agapic lovers view their partner as blessings, and wish to take care of them.
Agapic lovers will remain faithfull to their partners to avoid causing them pain, and will often wait patiently for their partners after break-up.
Marriage and children are sacred trusts, and sex is a Gift between two people.
Agapic love is unconditional.
The advantage of agapic love is its generosity.

Examples of agape in movies or books include:
* The Gift of the Magi by o. Hanry.
* The Notebook
* Somewhere in time
* Titanic
* Untamed Heart
* Forest Gump
* passion of the christ.

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